Grrr. Angry right now.
Discovered that my father in law called my mother (who lives in another country) to tell her that he is concerned about my weight. Oh Jesus. I have lost a little weight but nothing that most people would notice. I work in a healthcare profession so I understand what is safe and what isn’t safe better than most people. I am not in an unsafe state with my weight.
I am also an adult- a real life grown-up. I also have a very anxious mother.
So you can imagine my anger to discover that this concerned conversation was going on behind my back. Em, could you just have spoken to me about it?
So my mother had “the talk” with me when I went home this weekend. She agreed, after seeing me with her own eyes that although slim I did not look “dangerously thin”. She told me that she had a dream that she was at my funeral. Oh God. This is the kind of anxiety-overdrive thing that I like to protect my mother from by not making concerned phonecalls to her. I do this because I am an adult and I can take other people’s feelings into consideration.
BTW I am 30 years old. Come on. So will have to have some kind of uncomfortable conversation with my father in law about this. Cringe.
What is it about weight that people feel is public property to discuss. Weight loss signifies an emotional problem, a disorder, a crises. Weight gain signifies laziness, letting yourself go.
Starting to understand what pregnant women feel like- privacy is gone.
I am sure that this can all be explained by parents need to “be parents”. Even when their children are grown ups, who have jobs, own their own houses, are married, have children of their own, they see them as their little one.
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